Thanks so much for your letter and generous compliments. I’m glad you kept reading after wondering if I was going to reveal what you needed to know. It sounds like you worked hard to put it to use.

When I was asked to write a book explaining my method, I wanted to write something that would encourage people, educate them fully, and not let them feel like a failure if they were unable to apply what they learned without help. I, myself, had read lot’s of self-help books in my past that made it sound like succeeding with the book would be easy and there was something wrong with me if I was not able to do what the book said. It turns out that lots of them were useless, based on the writer’s cock-eyed opinions instead of science, and they were completely false in the assertions that success should be easy for the reader now that they read his or her book. Those books hurt people more than helped.

I wanted to write a book that would help and never hurt, and I knew that even good self-help books could be impossible for people to apply. I wanted everyone who read my book to be well educated, encouraged to be hopeful and think well of themself, and lead them to success, either by succeeding on their own or seeking help from a legitimate professional counselor.

I know many of us need one-on-one help to succeed in some things, and what I do as a professional counselor works to provide that for those people with those kinds of problems. I knew that many of the people who read my book would fit that description. So, I wanted to make sure they did not feel badly about themselves if they attempted to follow my instructions on how to succeed on your own that I give. I also wanted to encourage people to get help if they needed it instead of feeling like they failed at something everyone else can do, that the writer described was easy to do.

So, while I reveal everything about my method in the book, as you found, I also make sure people feel OK about getting help if they are not successful following my instructions of what to do to succeed on your own.

I knew some would be able to apply what I teach in the book on their own, without help, and I am thrilled that my book has helped so many do that. It has been more successful as a self-help book than I had ever imagined. The mail I get astounds me.

As far as my saying that explaining everything about the intricacies of psychology and psychotherapy behind what I teach is not possible in one book, that is true. It would fill libraries. Likewise, reading what people do to train in a sport or music is not the same as sitting down with a trainer and taking the lessons and going to practice. I don’t want people to think that reading this one book is the same as leaning everything I’ve learned in my 70 years, or everything I’ve acquired in my 50 years of education and training. I hope my book sparks a desire to learn more and engage in even more self-development. It certainly is possible for people to learn everything I have learned, and even more. There is still much for me to learn and learn how to do.

I’m so glad you took my advice to reread the book, and make notes as you began to follow my instructions on how to succeed without engaging the one-on-one counseling. You have a lot of strengths that will help you to great successes in life. You are right that the paperback offers advantages like being able to reference back easily, and also highlight and underline, which adds to the internalizing power and the ability to engage your unconscious mind, which almost all the techniques of the Key Behaviors do, if people use them. Unfortunately, a lot of people think that intellectually learning how reprogramming works is all they need to do. They think that understanding should produce the change. They miss the point that it is the practice of what’s learned that produces the change. It’s experiential learning that changes us, not just intelectualization.

Again, thanks for your wonderful message. I’m so glad my work was helpful. We make a good team. My work only has value if someone uses it, and you have done a good job with that, so I thank you for that. You have made what I do have value. Without that, it would be worthless.