You may be ready for the best year of your life.

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1) Can you accept the reality that you will need to make permanent changes in your habits? (Dieting does not solve the problem.) If you can, you may be on your way to success.


As I teach my patients and readers, diets don’t really help to acheive permanent weight loss. Read why, and what does achieve permanent weight loss in my book The Anderson Method, and listen to the audiobook HERE.


Here’s what you need to know.

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Telecounseling, using the telephone to conduct legitimate counseling sessions with licensed therapists, has been occurring for close to 50 years. Telemedicine is what they call it when doctors and other healthcare providers provide services via telephone and Internet video connection. Now, it is a common practice, a clinical mode that is studied and taught to doctors and therapists, and in many cases, covered by health insurance.

As an older Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a boomer, I have been slow to accept the rapid advance of our culture into the digital age. I was even slow to accept the idea of distance counseling via telephone, without the eyeball-to-eyeball and close-up intimacy of live personal human contact. But circumstances forced the issue, with established clients sometimes homebound, and more and more people living an hour or more away who wanted to work with me. I found that counseling over the phone worked quite well, and actually had some distinct advantages over in-person sessions. No travel time, for one thing. …


The silver lining in the pandemic storm

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Some people see only bad news in the pandemic, but if we look we can find good things that can lift our spirits and improve our well-being. And we definitely need that!

We are not going to see a vaccine until the end of 2020 or the beginning of 2021. Until that happens, the virus is going to spread, slowly with the least amount of damage, or quickly, with a lot of damage, depending on how we behave. We can slow it down and minimize our own risk by keeping to ourselves and limiting our contact with others. That would be good, but some people refuse to consider that. They refuse to believe we need to change. They refuse to stop socializing, refuse to stop gathering in large groups, refuse to wear masks and engage in social distancing. They defy the health experts’ prescriptions, and their stubborn stupidity has made the United States the worst in the world in dealing with the pandemic, with more death and destruction than anywhere on earth. Unbelievably, it looks like they are going to continue refusing to fight the spread of the virus. …


Is weight loss possible or even important when your world is falling apart? Yes, but…..

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There is a phenomenon known to dieters, weight control experts and researchers known as the “What The Hell Effect”. It occurs when the dieter has reached her or his limit of endurance following the diet and blows it, indulging in a binge. It may be from boredom. It could be fatigue and frustration after an excess of self-denial and self-discipline. It may be an emotional pressure valve blowing, providing blessed relief when overwhelming stress or emotions break you. You throw your hands up in the air, throw caution to the wind, say, “What the hell! What difference does it make?” and dig in with a vengeance. We said to ourselves, “What the hell, I blew it anyway, so why not go ahead and eat whatever I feel like?” That might be followed by a period of months or years of overeating and gaining weight until you can’t stand it (or yourself) anymore. At some point, you screw up your courage to try again and then do it all over again. …


Is this a time to say “anything goes” or a time for self-improvement?

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The Feast of Acheloüs — Peter Paul Rubens and Jan Brueghel the Elder

Why attempt weight loss during the COVID-19 crisis? Because losing weight will make you feel good, gaining weight will make you feel awful, and right now, you need something that will make you feel good.

Everyone paying attention today is realizing that we are going to be practicing rigorous pandemic protocols from this date forward. Things will never be the same. The changes and loss of creature comforts take their toll, but we will adjust. Human beings always do. Yes, it will be a challenge. But we can choose to embrace the challenge and figure out how to come out on top, better than we were before, or we can choose to resent the challenge and magnify the suffering. …


Take advantage of social distancing and staying at home to improve your habits and yourself.

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I’ve heard many people fretting about weight gain during the COVID-19 crisis. The theme is that you’re bored, you’re stressed, you’re stuck at home, and there’s not much to do but graze all day and gain lots of weight. That could happen, and I’m sure it will be the case for lots of people, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Following Dr. Fauci’s prescription of social distancing and staying at home can be a silver lining helping you to lose the weight you’ve been trying to get rid of for ages. It’s a perfect opportunity to apply new strategies. …


Your expectations determine your future.

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These days, it’s easy to get cynical. Young people surveyed don’t have a very hopeful view of the future. They expect that they will not live as well as their parents, that Social Security and Medicare will disappear. They believe the environment is degrading, that natural resources like clean air and water will become scarce. They see our culture becoming morally rotten, lying and cheating becoming normal behavior, even in our leaders. There are huge disparities of wealth and privilege between a small group of the very rich and the masses with very little. It’s no surprise when we read that depression and suicide are increasing at alarming rates in our population. It’s a big problem. …


In a word, “yes”. Here’s why. A real weight loss expert explains.

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New clients and readers ask, “What should I eat to lose weight? What should I avoid?” I don’t answer with lists of foods and diets. Instead, I teach a method for permanent weight loss that includes the foods they like, holidays, dining out and all the things they’ll want for the rest of their lives. Success comes from building habits that include your favorite things while they keep you at your optimum weight. “Dieting” with schemes that won’t last only leads to yo-yo dieting and continuous weight gain.

However, I’m sometimes asked questions about specific foods that are easy to answer and provide immediate effective help with no study and effort. One of the questions is about the advisability of protein shakes. …


Sin and evil are real. It will be the death of us. It needs to stop.

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When I pointed out the sin and evil in what a neighbor was saying and doing, she replied that bringing religion into the discussion was irrelevant. However, I was not talking about religion. Actually, I’m not a fan of organized religion. All the religious organizations I’ve encountered were created and run by people, and they screw up everything they touch. I was talking about sin and evil, people wholeheartedly embracing it.

Sin and evil are real. They exist apart from any religion. We encounter it every day, and it is glaring and alive in all its ugliness, impossible to deny. Rape, murder, mayhem, sadism, torture, bullying, stealing, lying, fraud, sex trafficking, inequitable exploitation of others, cruelty, cheating, false advertising, selfishness, the will to do harm, to inflict suffering — the list goes on. You know it when you see it, when you feel it. You don’t need religions or laws to know it. It burns your soul if you have such a thing. …

About

William Anderson, LMHC

Psychotherapist teaching the psychology and science of weight control. Author of "The Anderson Method — The Secret to Permanent Weight Loss".

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